Face of a Catfish

The Unwitting (or unwilling) Face of a Catfish

I recently spoke with you about the Catfish phenomenon and how it can have an impact on the victims. But it’s not only the people who swim into the Catfish net that get affected. My friend Kristy, from Florida, uploaded a number of photos as a teenager online of herself. Little did she know she was going to become a Goldmine for fictitious personas. I spoke to her about her experiences with being the face of a Catfish on multiple occasions to see what it’s like to be a victim from another angle.

Hey Kristy! Your pictures tend to get used a lot for Catfish profiles, which is crazy. When was the first time you noticed this was happening?

I noticed it happening a lot when I was 14 years old. I didn’t think anything of it then but it’s been ten years and it’s still happening, which is crazy.

A lot of your photos can be typed in by using your old username – where was the first initial place people would find your photos?

I had put them on a site that I was obsessed with growing up, called Polyvore.

You’re aware of the whole ‘Catfish’ phenomenon – was it before or after the MTV show first started airing that people would use your photos as their own to claim to be a false persona?

I believe Catfish has been around for a few years, I’m not sure. People have been using my pictures as their own for almost ten years, it has died down recently though I still get a few stragglers.

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Jazz is a Disney, tea and pop culture enthusiast with a passion for blogging. Also a proud introvert.

Why the ‘TRIGGERED’ meme needs to stay in 2016

Memes can be fun and really be a great ‘inside joke’ to social media users, but sometimes the internet does take it a step too far, which is why I’ve decided to discuss one of 2016’s biggest meme trends; the ‘triggered meme’.

For those who don’t know what memes are, Google describes it as “an image, video, piece of text, etc., typically humorous in nature, that is copied and spread rapidly by Internet users, often with slight variations.” If you are a social media user, such as myself, there’s a very high chance you’ve seen one in your time online. There’s no harm in having a joke and a laugh, but when it comes at price of people being hurt, that’s when it needs to stop.

Here’s an example of the ‘triggered’ meme…

What participants of the joke telling (mostly millennials from what I have seen) have vastly ignored or overlooked the actual meaning of “trigger” and why it’s actually not funny at all.

‘Triggered’ is in fact a legitimate psychological term in which refers to emotions that surface in response to stimulation which brings up a traumatic past experience. Trigger warnings (also known as content warnings) are particularly placed on the internet ahead of content which may be of a explicit nature or that could contain potential triggers for people with past trauma.

Although not always, more often than not triggers happen to people who have PTSD. For some people, a trigger can be identified with past traumatic experiences and therefore they are able to pinpoint why they are triggered. For others, it’s a total mystery.  Despite the cause of triggers, those who experience them tend to recognise patterns within the kids of things which trigger them over time. I’ve definitely had (and still have) some things which can trigger me and cause a panic attack.

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Jazz is a Disney, tea and pop culture enthusiast with a passion for blogging. Also a proud introvert.
Catfished

Why you shouldn’t be ashamed if you’ve been Catfished

catfish

/katfɪʃ/

noun

 2.
USinformal
  1. lure (someone) into a relationship by adopting a fictional online persona.
    “he was being catfished by a cruel prankster”

If you’re an avid social media user (and watch MTV religiously), you’re probably aware of the term ‘Catfishing’. There may even be a chance that you have been catfished yourself. While some people watch the MTV show ‘Catfish’ hosted by Nev Schulman and Max Joseph, many people tend to laugh at what is considered the stupidity and misfortune of the victims. I, on the other hand, find the documentary series highly fascinating. True, some of the fictitious personas on there can often seem pretty obvious in the fact that they are definitely not an actual person, but that doesn’t mean you should be ashamed if you have swum into the Catfish’s trap.

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Social media can be amazing or it can be terrible. I personally have many positive experiences with it and making online friends can be a lot of fun, if you are cautious and know what you’re doing. 99% of the people I have befriended online are exactly who they say they are and I’ve met the majority of them in person, if not video chatted with them should they live too far away. However, I can put my hands up and admit that I – a big fan of the MTV show and have seen every episode released – have been Catfished. Continue reading “Why you shouldn’t be ashamed if you’ve been Catfished”

Jazz is a Disney, tea and pop culture enthusiast with a passion for blogging. Also a proud introvert.

I spent a week with a mermaid!

Hello there!

So, as I excitedly explained on my social media sites a numerous amount of times, just over a week ago, my dear friend Courtney AKA A Mermaid’s Blog  (formerly known as Find The Lost Girl) travelled from Stevenage, Hertfordshire to visit me for about a week here in Wales. We have been online friends for almost three years now having digitally met via a Facebook fan page for our favourite singer, Olly Murs. After Skyping, Facetiming and just talking probably more than we talk to our friends who live near us, we eventually arranged to meet up. My parents were happy to let Courtney stay with us for a couple of days and after months of excitement, the day finally arrived.

I stood at Cardiff Central bus station with slight anxiety and adrenaline. As the London bus pulled in, I rapidly began texting “Is this your bus?” but no reply. As soon as it pulled in, I had a call.

“Where the hell are you?!”

“I’m literally right by the National Express office you can’t miss me.”

“I can’t- OH MY GOD I SEE YOU”

“Grea-”

Call Disconnected

I look up to see a very familiar face running across the crossing with a suitcase lugging behind her. My face lit up as I ran towards her and she mimicked my actions. We ran to each other, screamed and hugged before bursting out into tears. At last, we had finally met.

Courtney and Jazz first selfie
Our first selfie! Still red eyed from crying…

We only had 5 days together as CJ (her nickname, so you know) had to get back in time for a concert, but we made every moment memorable. From blogging to spending quality time watching films, from shopping to a make over. We did so much in such little time.

I’ll write an overview of each day as so much went on.

Day One:

Courtney and I met in Cardiff after she arrived from London which was a transfer from Stevenage. We got really emotional before catching a train back to my place. We had a night in to watch Ant and Dec’s Saturday Night Takeaway and just chatted the night away before watching one of our favourite films, Peter Pan in Return to Neverland.

Night in with the TV. Perfect way to bond!
Night in with the TV. Perfect way to bond!

 

Day Two: 

After a very lazy morning together, my mother, our friend Denise and I took Courtney up a local Welsh mountain to walk Louis and Pepsi and for CJ to see the breathtaking views of the Welsh Valleys. It was also my stepdad’s birthday but he had to work. I managed to give him his present, which was this video from a member of the cast from Game of Thrones wishing him a happy birthday. Needless to say, he was really happy! Courtney and I then spent the evening watching The Fault in Our Stars.

Day Three:

My stepdad’s birthday was on the Sunday but he was working, so today we had a tea party with my stepbrother, my gran and some family friends visiting alongside CJ and I there with my stepdad and my mother. Denise made an amazing cake for his birthday in shape of a Welsh rugby ball. We later went to my local carvery for dinner before watching Love Rosie on DVD.

Bob cake
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Day Four: 

We had an early rise before going to my favourite little cafe, The Potting Shed. It’s the cutest little place for breakfast and I think Courtney enjoyed it! We then went to the Welsh history museum, St Fagans, where we looked around the old buildings from the past as well as making friends with a sheep! We called her Dolly. We headed home before taking Louis and Pepsi to the beach for a walk and headed to a little ice cream kiosk which ran out of ice cream and made the world’s worst tea. Never again! I also introduced Courtney to the film Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging. I was rather shocked she had never seen it considering the moment it released, thousands of teens and tweens headed out to the cinema to watch it.

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So much cuteness from The Potting Shed!
Breakfast
Breakfast
Courtney xxxx
Courtney and Polly!
Jazz and Polly
Polly and I chilling

Day Five:

This was the day we had been planning for a long time. We both love shopping, especially for make-up and beauty products, so I took CJ to Cardiff to go shopping. We went to a number of shops but the best ones being Superdrug Beauty Studio (the only one in the UK), LUSH, Blue Banana (which Courtney fell in love with), The Disney Store and The Body Shop where we booked in for a free makeover. Sadly, when we got home, we forgot to take close ups of our make as we were so tired after a long day. I also took Courtney for her first Nandos. Thankfully, they have Vegetarian options!

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Nandos do pretty great vegetarian options!

 

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Chilling in Cardiff!

Day six:

The day of dread. The day Courtney heads back home. As she packed her bags, we headed to the train station with our heads hanging low with sorrow before boarding the train and headed back to Cardiff central. We spent two hours in a coffee shop for a final chat before the coach arrived. I was welling up. The past few days had been so much fun and now it was all coming to an end. It flew by so fast. As I hugged her before she boarded her coach, we said “see you soon” because we refuse to say goodbye. “Goodbye means going away and going away means forgetting” as Peter Pan once said. Cliche? Cheesy? Yes. But we’re fans, so we stuck by it.

My few days with Courtney was so much fun. We did so much and just had a great time in each other’s company. It wasn’t the last time I will see her, though. We’ve already started making plans for her return in the summer and our reunion in London some time this year for a party. So, it’s all good!

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Jazz is a Disney, tea and pop culture enthusiast with a passion for blogging. Also a proud introvert.

A response to The Independent RE: Zoella

I’m not sure what you would call this as it’s not exactly a rant but it’s a response to the Independent in regards to this article about YouTuber Zoella.

This article is discussing YouTube sensation Zoe Sugg AKA Zoella and her impact on teenage girls. I just feel as though the person who wrote the article in question just didn’t do enough research on Zoe. Yes, I watch Zoella’s YouTube videos and while I’m rather fond of her content and her as a person (or at least what she portrays online), I’m not an obsessed fan. However, the article by The Independent branded Zoe as a person who promotes beauty and makes young girls feel insecure due to the fact she supposedly sends out the message that make up and beauty is something a girl must do. When, in fact, she’s not doing this at all.

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Jazz is a Disney, tea and pop culture enthusiast with a passion for blogging. Also a proud introvert.

Sexual Harassment: it's NOT a joke

I’m pretty angry. Want to know why? Well, I’m going to tell you anyway. Sam Pepper is why I am angry.

For those of you who are unaware of who Sam Pepper is, he is a successful YouTuber who tends to pull a lot of pranks. He has 2.4 million subscribers and over 1.162 million followers on Twitter, so you could say he’s a bit of a big deal.

I have personally never been fond of him. He gets into public social media arguments with other people and the like. But now I despise him.

His last video posted this weekend was titled “fake hand ass pinch prank” where he basically grabbed female’s bums as a prank. I’m sorry, what? This isn’t a prank, it’s a form of sexual harassment. And no, I’m not being a moany little bitch or anything, because here is the actual definition of sexual harassment:

Sexual harassment is bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors.

If you watch the video you can clearly see that the majority of Pepper’s victims are not welcoming his actions and one woman even stated she didn’t like it. Whether or not he apologised afterward or not doesn’t mean anything. Just saying sorry after doing something wrong and inappropriate doesn’t magically make it better.

This isn’t the first time Pepper has done this, either. Videos titled “How Make Out with Strangers” released last year, Sam pressured women on camera to make out with him and again many of those women were visibly not happy with it. They painfully agree to the request feeling confused and caught off guard with great discomfort.

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Jazz is a Disney, tea and pop culture enthusiast with a passion for blogging. Also a proud introvert.